Personal experiences shape individual realities and influence communication. It examines the creation of mental models, the role of autopilot behaviors in daily life, and how unique perspectives affect understanding and interactions with the world. These frameworks significantly impact interpersonal relationships, especially when engaging with others who hold different viewpoints or experiences.

It also highlights the influence of societal programming on perception, including biases introduced through education, media, and cultural narratives. By identifying and reassessing these programmed filters, individuals can break free from harmful patterns and foster personal growth. The importance of self-awareness and questioning narratives is emphasized as a way to create a reality that promotes well-being.

Highlights of the Podcast

00:04 – Introduction

03:06 – Autopilot and Mental Models

04:25 – Differing Perspectives

07:38 – Programmed Biases

10:27 – Recognizing and Changing Programming

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:04] So I am going to start doing lectures. When to go back over the pillar stuff. And so I got to do this about ten 15 minutes to make it work an hour. So I wanted to kind of throw out some of the stuff from the psychological pillar and see if I could do it in time. So you guys, if you get sorry. So the psychological function, when we start going through psych function, one of the things that we all have to recognize is that we actually. We actually live in our own realities. And this is one of those things that as it’s funny because this is one of the things as you start explaining it all makes sense. So what happens is that we when we explore the world, you can break the this all the way back down to the most basic functionality of the human beings hypothalamus functionality. We’ve got the thing that tells you to go out and look at stuff. The other thing that builds the model of what you saw, something with this, you going to a party you remember in this guy’s house before you see your bathroom, you walk around the house looking in every room, trying to find the bathroom. Once you find the bathroom, you on the bottom, you go back later that night, it gives you that again. You don’t have to search for the bathroom. You can walk to it oftentimes even remember it. You can walk to it without having to look for it because you’ve made a model of that guy’s or that person’s house in your head. And so you know how to get there. Which is which is also kind of funny.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:31] So like, for instance, the church, I get rid of Sanders and the way I used to get there was I would go basically to park to go up and I would go around to get there. Well, there is traffic on the tollway when I use my jeep. Yes, it’s going to go this way. So there’s two different ways that’ll easily be able to get to the church. Two different models, different paths. But I was unaware of one of them until the GPA. Sure it was. The GPA showed it to me. I started taking that one instead. So there That’s kind of how we orient ourselves in the world. So our experiences teach us things. And what ends up happening is that we block out the vast majority of the world around us. Peterson talks about this a lot. A lot of psych psych clinical scholars talk about blocking out the world around you, which is why it’s easy to surprise people, right? Like, well, hide in his office. He won’t see us. No, you won’t, because you’re on autopilot. So the same thing is like you, if you’ve ever done this, driving is a very complex skill. However, we can put driving into our automated functions so you literally can just drive on autopilot. And this happens to people all the time. Is this you’re driving now, you’re on autopilot. You end up like, I go to the store before I go home. You end up at home and go to the store. I was on autopilot. I didn’t even think about where I was going. I just ended up at home. Right. You didn’t think about, you know, the lights and the turn signals and the waves. Like you weren’t conscious of that because you’re on autopilot. Everybody can drive. Like it’s one of the things we can kind of just do.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:03:06] So, you know, those type of things. So we create our own reality based on the experiences that we have. The reason that’s really, really important to understand is because. You have to understand when you’re trying to communicate with someone else that they specifically have different. And they’ve had different experiences than you. And so they view things a little bit differently. One of the examples I use is let’s say you’re at a dinner party and the chandelier falls on the ground and shatters a whole new video, video recording of it, a subjective truth, what actually happened? Then you go around and talk to each individual person. You’re like, Hey, what happened? The dinner party. They’re going to tell you a vastly different story based on their experience. You know, Susan talked to Ted and Ted going through divorce. And so Susan is all about that now. And yeah, the chandelier fell. Then somebody else is over there. Maybe they got hit. The piece of glass. Is there going to be a lot more off the shoulder phone? And then somebody else is like, Susan got really drunk when you’re her. So each person has their own little piece of what happened at the party, but not sure exactly. And so that’s one of the things it’s very important to kind of recognize when you’re talking to somebody, is that you’ve got to figure out where they’re frame of reference is to begin with. Once you figure out how they’re oriented in the world, that’s where you can start trying to figure out this is how I’m going to explain these things to you.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:04:25] So, for instance, I’ve used this example before. I’m a speaker and so I have a way. I do things that way of processing that way I’ve built the model in my head. It has beginning, middle and end, right? So beginning this walking on stage and I never see myself discussing a topic, middle as middle a topic. Then end the conclusion where we wrap together and do every recall action and then leading section. My son, who is learning to speak, he has a beginning, middle and end. Then he has an intro, so he has a whole nother piece to it. And so we were talking about what you talked about in the beginning. I was talking my introduction. So like that he was like that. That’s not part of the beginning. I was like, What are you talking about? Is like, that’s part of the intro. And I was like, all right. So his is his section off the intro because of the way that this speech is, the way that the piece I contest is put together. The intro piece is separate, you know, in a very logical way of looking at it. Then the rest of the speech. The thing is that this is where the programing, the key from the earlier Superman program comes. He’s ten. He’s been taught this since he was like nine. He will now view speeches in this framework for probably the rest of his life until he sits down and has decided to view it a different way. So when you talk to someone like that, he was like, this is the framework in which, you know, a speech is given. You kind of have to understand where they’re coming from and they’re their own personal reality.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:05:55] So the other problem is that since you’re inhibitory, you don’t see things. The things that you block out are oftentimes very, very, very important to what’s actually going on with you. So if you start blocking out, like the fact that you don’t great. A great example is women who accept beatings from that they block out the obviously the obvious violence issue because they want to focus on other things within the relationship. So that’s one of those things that you start with. You start blocking things out because there’s a lot of times where if you talk to somebody who’s like not beaten up every day, this psychologically or physically abused and they don’t there’s times they don’t they don’t know like, that’s not normal. You should know that’s not normal at all. They are all right. Then they start noticing it more and more. This is very, very common with psychological abuse. Gaslighting. So when you’re when you’re looking at different. Issues between communications of people. You first have to understand the your reality is much, much different than the way you think, the way that you perceive the world is going to be different in every case. This is a major issue with your life if you’re trying to communicate. This is one of the hardest things. And I talked about this all the time. If you’re 45 and you’re trying to communicate with a 12, 13, 14 year old, their world is so radically different than yours. Their their perceptions of viewpoints. Everything is so radically different than yours. Then it’s it is very difficult to try and say that this is one of the reasons why a lot of times you’ll have a standard middle of the road, not even conservative Miller of Family Center Kids College, which is hyper liberal. And they come home with all these hyper liberal ideas.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:07:38] And the the two reality is not conflict because this person is like, this is what I’ve seen and experienced and you know, this is what’s going on and this is how I’ve now been programed to think of the world, the filters that it put on my mind to now experience the world through this viewpoints are set by their teachers in school or college. So this is why it is such an important deal that we get rid of DTI because we were literally and people don’t like to hear this. We were literally teaching our kids to be recess. And sexist assumptions. That’s 100% what we’re teaching people, because it was a First Amendment year that we you know, we look at our environment and we make sure that we judge people on their race so that we know we have enough of X amount of race. And we have to make sure we judge people on their gender. So, you know, we have X amount of those gender. We have to make sure we judge people based on their sexuality. So you’re listening to that person here. So this is the filters that were being put on. This was the programing that was talking to our children. And this is one of the things that ultimately that that rub that friction was ultimately what led to a guy like Trump. However you want to look at that. But that’s that’s a lot of the times when it happens. So when we start looking at the programing, we start looking at what are people telling us? Is it true and how true is it? This is a very, very big piece of what’s going on.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:08:59] One of the things that we do like within our app as well, to ask people questions that no one asked before, they’ve got to think through them. And it’s funny when you start asking people questions about things that they think they hold positions, they think they hope, like the end. You start walking through it and you start showing them how it’s racist. It’s always funny to me because you got. Okay. Because you can see the lights turn on and because it’s it’s by definition, it’s not meritocracy. It’s based functioning entirely on their race, gender and sexuality. So it is by definition, is the most definition functional thing of racial discrimination. But, you know, once that’s kind of what you walk through that you’re like, now I see it. You have to change the programing that was put into place. So change the filters that were put into place. So you now see things on merits based on seeing things based on race, sexuality and gender. So this is very, very important to understand because if you start to understand this, you can start to see it. So when the news media comes out and says things, you can go, okay, you’re trying to program a narrative, you’re not informing me. You’re trying to program a narrative. As soon as you can start to see it, it becomes very, very, very, very apparent. So this is a really important thing to to study and to learn and kind of see how things are, how you are being manipulated in any way, shape or form. And some of the motivation is go. And so much manipulation is not.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:10:27] So, you know, it’s one of those things where you got to kind of understand what is the message, what is the purpose of the message? Who’s delivering the message and who gains from the message is singular. You have nothing, Nothing. We comes to the TV or like a lot of the main stuff is coming through. Your social media feed is just raw information is driven by a specific point. It’s a what you can start to understand how programing happens. And this is this is if you guys haven’t taken up your work with general practitioner, I highly recommend that you do it because this is going to teach you how to see these things in the world and in you and change these things for the better. So like this is the big thing on psychology that we are going through is how are we being programed and can we resist it? This is the thing we all have to kind of understand is because again, if you take that all the way back to the beginning of everyone has their own reality, you can now shift that reality to see the things that you want people to see nor the things you want them to ignore. So it takes a lot longer to explain than I have in 12 months. But that’s one of those big things that from a psychological standpoint, it’s super important for not only cultural function, but interpersonal relationships and everything else to understand how have I been programed and is that programing beneficial to me or is it detrimental to me?

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:11:49] And so you can go back and you can actually change the program. So that’s kind of the big thing. On when we talk about psychological function and a part of the psychology color that’s kind of more or less what we’re talking about. So this is there’s a gigantic amount of research on the sort of gigantic amount of functionality in this. A lot of the stuff is really, really funny because it’s basically they basically boiled down a whole bunch of, you know, you know, PJ and Freud and Crowley and stuff like that and kind of internally look at these things first, like figure out how you’re program, identify whether that’s good or bad, break the bad programing reset, and then drive yourself into a different position. So, you know, that’s one of the things that maybe that’s a better definition. LP But that’s the thing that we all have to recognize when we’re talking about psychology and how we interact with our social media, with news and with the people around us. So okay, chief, that burns You got a little bit. And if there’s any questions, just a question of [email protected] or drop your comments. Thanks for your time and have a nice day.

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