NLP explores how individuals perceive the world uniquely, shaping their communication and understanding. Through relatable examples, the concept emphasizes the importance of adapting communication styles to align with others’ perspectives, fostering clearer and more effective exchanges. By recognizing that everyone processes information differently, NLP provides tools to bridge gaps in understanding and build stronger connections.

The discussion also touches on health care, encouraging a reevaluation of traditional systems and approaches. With plans to introduce resources for finding health professionals and exploring alternative methods, the aim is to empower individuals to make informed choices about their well-being in the coming year.

Highlights of the Podcast

00:03 – Introduction to NLP and Communication Styles

01:23 – Understanding Different Realities and Perceptions

02:21] – Example: Teaching Communication with NLP

04:20 – NLP in Practice

05:38 – Core Principles of NLP

08:05 – Upcoming Content and Health Care Topics

10:04 – RFK and Reevaluating the Medical Model

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:03] So I said my end of the podcast was Lou last night on an LP and communication styles. And it was kind of funny to me because we’re trying to explain teaching communication and realize that half the words we use to discuss, you know, communication stuff. We’d have to give all the background for. And so it was a very interesting podcast conversation. So if you guys watch that one, it’ll be up on the site here in a couple of days. It’s for the How to choose health care provider. You guys want to watch that and tell if it makes any sense to you. But anyway, I wanted to give kind of another example of it, because it’s, you know, you’ll get this from the podcast. It’s an open loop that’s on my head. But I was talking to my youngest this morning when we were working out. And this is kind of, I thought, a great example of. One of the basic premises of an LP and of basically psychology, which is we all have different realities, like the idea that you walk into a room and you see everything and record everything, and then everyone has the same perceptions and everyone has the same ideas and everyone has the same reality. That’s not the way it works.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:23] And so understanding that you have your way of doing things, you have your systems, you have your programing, you have your ideas, and other people might have something that’s very different or that’s similar to yours, but we both get to the same goal. So, for instance, so my youngest is working on his pieces for poetry reading, and basically it’s giving a speech, right? And he was telling me what he was doing and how he was learning it. And he said he has his intro memorized. And I was like, That’s great, buddy. And I was like, lots of times it’s the easiest way to do it. And so I said, you know, you memorized the beginning. You memorize the middle, memorize the end. He goes, No, I have the intro memorized. And I said, What do you mean? And he said, Well, he said, The way that the way this works is that he knows there’s an intro and then there’s a beginning, middle and end of the story. And I was trying to figure out what he was talking about.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:02:21] The way he was taught, the way he was programed that you give this speech is that you stand up, you do an introduction. Then you tell the poem and then you, you know, you close and you sit down. And so in his head, the way this this process goes is you get up, you give an introduction. Then you do the beginning, middle and of the year of your poem, write your story. So the way that the way I do it in my head is from a stage perspective. Now, because I’ve spoken on stage, I do lots of speaking on stage to do the Ted talk, the whole thing. And so the way my mind works is that the beginning, middle and end of your talk is how are you walking up on stage? How are you starting the presentation, How are you doing? Like the middle piece of the presentation and then how do you do the clothes, which is wrapping everything you put together all up into one little piece, right? And so I roll the intro into the beginning. And so there’s three parts. The way I do it, there’s four parts the way he does it conceptually.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:03:18] And so, you know, you could sit there and argue nobody. There’s really just three pieces. Your intro is part of the beginning. Or you can just recognize, you see the world differently than I do. Okay. So when if I’m going to communicate with you, I’m going to understand your worldview. I want to understand how you process this thing we’re talking about. You have an extra step that I don’t consider. So you have the intro, then you have the story. I just have, you know, stand up from my chair, walk up. That’s all part of the beginning, give the intro, then tell the story. So the way I conceptualize it, my head is just a little bit different. However, now that I understand how he conceptualizes this talk, I can speak to him in a manner that he better understand so I can communicate information to him in a way that is easier for him to grasp whenever when he does this to a certain degree. Right? So, for instance, you know, to take this and kind of extrapolate out, you know, if you have let’s say that, you know, like what I do all the time, like I take physiology terms, I turn into car terms, right?

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:04:20] And so I tell people, you know, you can’t supercharge a system. You know, you can’t add a lot more horsepower to the engine without also kind of watching out for, you know, coolant and airflow and braking and stability and things like that. Right? So you turn it into car terms. It makes more sense when I put it in context. But we all do those type of things, right? It’s like, here, here’s my model that I’ve got thinking in my world. And for me to better explain the way I see this thing, I’m going to take like a car part, a car term, something. You play football. Let’s let’s, let’s put this in football terms or like whatever, and you kind of explain it out and people go, okay, now I understand how your model of the world works. And so that’s kind of what NLP is. And this is why like I could it’s easier to just be like, come and give me three hours or explain the psychological functionality of an LP and how open loops happen and how, you know, we, we create. We are a the adult US is just a representation of the programing and the models of the world that have been given to us or shown to us or created by us because there is no actual reality. We all live in our own little world, if that makes any sense.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:05:38] I realize that sounds really kind of out there and fruitfully, but that’s that’s the basis for all psychology is that you have to understand that everyone has a perception of the world that they cling to as reality. And it is probably going to be a little bit or a lot different than yours. And so to be able to connect with someone and communicate with them, you have to recognize that, hey, we have two similar but different views of how the world actually works. And so what I need to do, if I want to communicate with you, is figure out how do you view this world so that I can put it in terms that you better you best understand. And that’s why one of the processes of communication and LP is, you know, it is my job to communicate my idea to you. It’s not your idea. It’s not your job to understand what I’m saying. It’s my job to make sure I put it in a position where you can understand it. So if there’s a misunderstanding and I said something, it’s my fault, not yours. That’s kind of the whole process of how this works. And so the idea of, okay, well, if I have to communicate ideas to you and it’s my job to make sure you understand what’s the easiest way for me to get good at that?

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:06:50] Well, the best way for me to get good is to understand your model of the world. And so if I can start to recognize, for instance, in latest case, you have an intro, then you have a beginning, middle and your story. So when we’re communicating back and forth, instead of talking about the intro in my world, where where you walk up on stage and then give the intro and then keep going. In his world, it’s walk up on stage. Do the do the intro and then start the beginning of the story. So if I understand that I can communicate terms to him a little bit easier in ways that he’ll understand. So my job of communicating, it’s easier because I understand the model of the world that he’s working with, and I can use his model of the world to communicate, to help. I realize that that sounds very disconcerting and, like, weird. And so I’m sure that lots of people are like, I have no idea what you just said. But that’s kind of that’s kind of what NLP is. It’s trying to figure out how do I express something that I’m trying to get across to you in a manner that you will accept and own and be able to either visualize or identify with faster? And so it’s it’s that type of a thing.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:08:05] So it was funny because we got done talking and I in the video I talk about this, but we got done talking I end of the year and then I went home and we started talking about it again. So that’s where a lot of this came from as well. So that wouldn’t be up since we did that one early that to be out probably first. So hopefully the next couple days that will be on the website under the under the media tab. So you guys can go check that one out. We’ll put an email out and I’ll post about, you know, where all these things are. But that’s where all of the focus we’re doing with all of our professionals are going to be. So in the next couple of weeks, starting next week, we’re going to start putting out the kind of the process of what I’ve set up for how to find your health care professionals for the new Year. So we’re going to talk about pediatrics. We’re going to talk about psycho psychoanalytic NLP therapy. We’re going to talk about exercise.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:09:04] We talked about training. We’re talking about finding your general practitioner. We’re gonna talk about physiological health. And so we’re going to go through all of those things so that when you’re like, Hey, I want to become, you know, healthier in the New Year, you know, I’m looking for new doctors. You know, maybe you guys can remember some of this after RFK blows up the world and it shows everybody what’s actually going on. And we start getting a lot more information, a lot more data out, and we all start having a much bigger conversation about what health care should be. I am super excited about the possibilities of this one because, you know, as you start getting more and more information, you start asking more questions. I think people going to start to realize the medical model that we have right now is really messed up. You know, I think if we look at everything involved, you know, you can find in the United health care type of stuff and how how everyone realizes the system is wildly broken and it’s the only system we have because no one’s been allowed to offer a separate system or a different system.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:10:04] So as RFK starts coming out and then like, hey, we’ve we need to reevaluate a lot of the information we think is real and look at some of these things that, you know, maybe are creating more problems than they’re solving. I think as that conversation starts, next year is going to be a really interesting year for the health community because we’re hopefully we can start talking about a lot of things that we shouldn’t be using anymore, like statin drugs. And, you know, we’re hopefully going to start doing research on different vaccines and, you know, and if they’re great and if they’re what everybody’s been saying for a long time now, we have evidence, you know, if they’re the only thing in existence we know of that causes zero harm and only creates good, then fantastic. But if they are, they are literally the only thing on the earth that does that. So that’s why I think the the the information is going be very interesting to take a look at. So we’ll go through we’ll do some we’ll do some of that. If you guys have any specific questions, hit us up and we can kind of get we can go through those as we go along. But a lot of this is just going to be kind of, you know, information on different health care fields, chiropractic, you know, functional medicine, hormone therapy, that type of stuff. So starts on the 16th to be fun. We’ll see you there. Thanks for your time.

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